Recently came into understanding about the whole RW saga.
I personally don't agree with the whole go for your best friend's boyfriend plan.
I strongly believe in the girls' code.
I mean, even if you don't, think about how awkward and difficult it's gonna be when you and your best friend meets up/hang out together.
Or weird when you guys do things together that he and her used to do together.
It's weird for me, so I guess that's one of the reasons why I don't really want to know any of Z's exes and how they look like.
So I won't be jealous. Cause if I don't know how they look like, they will always remain ugly and fat to me. :)
Anyway, back to the topic at hand, as I said I truly believe in the girls' code so I really don't understand and condone it. I feel like, it's a pre-requisite for friendship. I can go on and on about this, but as I read and talked to my friends about it, here's a thought.
Who am I to judge?
Who?
Sure she did a bad thing, and it may reflect a lot on herself. And at the start when I first came to know about it, I was FURIOUS. Because there were so many specific details left out, when I read TT's blog, I took it all in. So I assumed that R cheated on A and like, snatch her boyfriend. Or that, she cheated on her own boyfriend, or that she went for her friend's boyfriend. Something like that lah. All kinds of scenarios that R was the bad guy and A was the victim. Then a friend pointed out that,
1) When I read R's and A's blogs, they didn't mention that the guy was her boyfriend.
2) There was nothing about R cheating on her boyfriend mentioned by A.
2) In fact, A said nothing at all. Just that she lost a good friend and a lover.
And the point is, all the other details were dished out on TT's blog. I mean, are they the truth? Who knows? A and R didn't say anything much. So anyone can just assume and fabricate stories, right?
And especially since there was so much ambiguity, whatever anyone says, must be the truth, right?
But is it?
Maybe it's from some 'reliable' source like a friend of a friend who knows A, or R told in confidence a friend's friend.
But so?
R is a well-known blogger and we know that the higher you rise, the greater the fall.
And the higher you are, the more haters there's gonna be. Everyone's gonna try to take you down.
I think it's stupid of R to make such a mistake. Because honestly, I see this a-girl-fall-in-love-with-her-good-friend's-boyfriend scenario almost everyday. And I hate it. I condemn it. But there's nothing I can do, right? It's none of my business. And it's like something very common already. The only reason why everyone is flaming her because she's a goddamn blogger and whatever she does in private becomes public. Shit, if I pulled this stunt, who's gonna give a fuck, right?
And some may say that it's precisely because she's so darn famous she should have watched her actions. She's not a good role model etc. Then don't look up at her as your role model lah?! You choose who you want to look up to, like, idolise, follow etc. So, simply not choose her.
There's a lot of keyboard warriors doing what they're only good at - cowering behind their keyboards and bitching, flaming, throwing virtual stones at her. You may say I'm doing the same. Ask me directly in person. I'm gonna say the same.
All I can say to RW is be careful. If he can do this for you, he can do this to you. Sure you may say it's love, but always remember: Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
And I think it's despicable that a lot of other famous bloggers are banding together to come against her. Like I said, who are you to judge?? It's none of my business what you want to say or write on your blog/twitter which has thousands of followers, just like it's none of your business what they want to do with their love life. And all of you are jumping on this opportunity to bring her down. That's disgusting and cheap. Without knowing the full facts (I don't), you're jumping on the wagon that's heading down I Hate RW town.
I'm not saying that I accept or approve what R had done. I hate it and find it disgusting. It's unethical and unfaithful to your friend.
But come on, we don't know the full story, do we?
And now that we've read TT's blog, we think that we do and that it says the truth.
I admit, me too.
But come on seriously, this whole thing just shows you how ugly this blogosphere is and gossip really is the most powerful thing.
It also tears off the masks of so many bloggers to show you who they truly are - be it a friend who would rather choose love over friendship, or girls who try to climb up higher by stepping on others.
Don't listen to what people say - watch what they do.
Make your own truths. Don't believe blindly.
There's a lot of quotes in this post that I hope many of you can take away from.
A new learning to bring you into the new year. Happy 2014!
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